Often I go down to my store more or less just to hang out for a while. I never know who I'll see, or what will happen, but I always enjoy a good conversation. Tonight one theme really took it's toll on me. I was down there for about two hours when I realized one sad coincidence for two separate conversations. The first one took place with a girl that I have always thought was someone who is very special. She has been through a tough marriage and rebounded very nicely. Unfortunately I have never tried to get to know her better because one of her best friends hates my guts with a severe passion. I don't wish to open a can of worms by trying to get to know her better, but at the same time, I hate depriving myself of something special because of that. The second conversation ran along the same path. While talking to her I quickly realized was a good person she is . I've always had that feeling, but never talked to her long enough to confirm it. I often talk to people and quickly discover that they have learned to master the "textbook responses" for what the other person wants to hear. These people really bother me and actually sicken me for their lack of individualism. I figured out rather quick that this girl is not that way at all. She is herself and nothing more than that, and like myself very comfortable with who I am regardless of what anyone else thinks. Once again this girl is tied through other people who would make me feel like a complete jerk for even thinking about futhering a conversation with her. Upon getting a divorce I immediately realized that my ex is no longer with me, but with whoever she feels would make her happy. I have no say nor would I feel any different if she chose a friend of mine. However in society that it considered very taboo. For some reason people seem to treat a wife or exwife as a piece of property and not an individual with their own freedom of choice. I've have already been burned at the stake for making that decision once(just ask Brandon) and am very gunshy about doing it again. If by chance either of you read this, I want you to both know that you are very special people who have done a good job of moving on after a tough relationship. The main thing is if you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of the next person who enters your life.
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11 years ago
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The advice you give is absolutely amazing, especially in this situation and knowing that you are experiencing very much the same. You're right, you can't move on without first taking care of yourself. Makes perfect sense, and the more you look at it that way, the less you can feel sorry for yourself. I have to say however, that it is much easier said than done. I am always amazed by you, and others, that seperate themselves from a relationship, and seem to keep such great composure for others to see. I know you, and see you day to day...and I have to admit that you are handling things very well. Just like my ex, she is also a very strong person who can get over certain things easier than others.
What I'm getting at is this: people like you are considered mentors. Even though you may have pain inside, going through your own struggles of a broken up relationship, you can always be there for others in need. I totally admire you for that, and you are a great person with a terrific gift. Same with my ex, once again, she seems to move on with ease...at least in my eyes.
Well keep going!, cause you're doing a great job. I mean that with sincerety, and I hope to get the chance to talk to you more in person, or at least more than the regular run through at the counter.
Best wishes my friend.
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